Limitless Loving Leadership

L3: Release Your Expectations

When I sat down at my desk this morning, I confronted my lengthy list detailing what I expected to achieve today. I also have many running lists in my head of what I plan to achieve with certain projects and in certain timeframes.

With such rigid expectations for every moment of every day, I am potentially missing out on miracles. I may not notice the birds chirping, children peacefully playing, and beautiful sunset if I am absorbed in my relatively narrow vision for the day. I might also miss out on opportunities to expand my vision and goals, engage in transformative conversation with another person, or participate in a wondrous experience.

Being flexible prepares us to be open to new ideas and opportunities along our path. We sometimes feel attached to our goals or to the process we have chosen to achieve those goals. As we invite universal wisdom to inspire us, we may find it necessary to eliminate or change our goals. Things often do not end up the way we expect; many times, the situation revealed is even better than what we had imagined. Accept the outcomes and consequences with love and humility.

Go with the flow. Resist attempting to control outcomes and other people; this exercise in futility will lead us to feel frustrated and disappointed. Focus your energy on those things you can control – your thoughts, feelings, actions, and, to some extent, your environment.

Keeping an open heart and mind allows us to see unknowns for what they truly are – exciting possibilities. As life evolves our purpose becomes more clear and we become more comfortable with ambiguity and uncertainty.

Goals are not bad; in fact, they are very helpful tools! When you set goals, ensure that they are aligned with both your deepest convictions and your wildest dreams. Monitor your progress toward your goals and reevaluate their legitimacy and usefulness on a regular basis. Allow yourself to be influenced by your experiences, other people, and inner wisdom that emerges. Plan your path, engage support, set your intention, and see what happens. If things don’t work out as anticipated, feel confident in the knowledge that you have the power to change your goals and be comforted by the wisdom you have absorbed along the way.

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